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My silent retreat at Vipassana Malaysia

I survived ten days in a silent retreat! I survived ten days with no talking, no communication of any kind and no gestures or body language towards others (apart from the teacher on a couple of occasions), but to be honest, no talking was actually the easiest part. I had been thinking about signing up […]

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Abuse stories

There’s a lot of information out there about dealing with abuse.  You can get support in online forums, Facebook Groups or via the Freedom Programme in the UK, whilst many groups at local and national level offer advice. As you would expect, many books have also been written about this huge topic over the years.  […]

Jane Clements Life Coach in front of a bright blue volcanic lake

How to get your life together

In this article I am going to explain a process that you can use to get back on track when you feel that your life is running out of control or is taking you in a different direction to the one that you had hoped.  It’s also useful when you feel stuck in a rut […]


Your life choices: you can change things around

The time will eventually come when you have to let go of the things that are causing you distress if you want to be happy.  Or you can continue to allow them to affect every aspect of your life – you have a choice. I wrote that first paragraph while sitting on a rock at […]

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Negative effects of divorce on children

I wrote this article in response to some of my readers who wanted to know how to handle their (almost adult) children’s growing hostility.  In both cases they attributed the change in character to the breakdown of their relationships and the fact that the other parent had always been manipulating and controlling. I will address […]

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Grounding Techniques for Anxiety

Here are some techniques to help you to calm things down before or during an anxiety attack.  You can also use them during a panic attack or at any time that you feel your stress levels spiraling out of control. What is anxiety? Anxiety happens when our bodies go into freeze, fight or flight mode […]

Jane Clements and dog looking out over a river at sunset

Supporting someone recovering from an emotionally abusive relationship

Don’t ever underestimate the impact that somebody else’s previous trauma can have on your relationship with them. Whether it’s a partner, friend or family member we may find ourselves trying to deal with unwanted emotional outbursts. Anger and withdrawal are just two behaviours that might occur unexpectedly when they are triggered by something and these […]

3 examples of how we allow negative beliefs to affect us

The following examples demonstrate how some of us might allow events to shape us in a negative way by taking on board things that are said to us.  These false beliefs usually begin in childhood; other children or adults may say things to us in fun sometimes with no idea of the consequences or they […]

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Negative beliefs shape who you are

I’m too fat, too thin, I’m ugly, uninteresting, too quiet, too loud, useless, I can’t cook, can’t dance, I’m stupid, too short, too tall, the wrong religion, I don’t fit in, my skin’s the wrong colour, people don’t like me, my work colleagues avoid me……. the list can go on and on and on and […]